December 11, 2024 by
The way someone with Alzheimer’s experiences the world isn’t always rooted in our current reality. One of the most heart-wrenching yet profound experiences you may encounter is something called time-shifting in Alzheimer’s. This isn’t just forgetting what day it is; it’s a complete immersion in a different era of their life. For instance, you may be sitting together at the dinner table, and suddenly, the person believes they’re a young adult waiting for their parents to come home. It’s disorienting for them and can be equally puzzling for you. But understanding time-shifting can help make those moments more manageable—and even meaningful.
What Is Time-Shifting in Alzheimer’s?
Time-shifting occurs when a person with dementia perceives themselves as living in a different time in their past. Beyond reminiscing, it’s a deep, convincing belief that they are currently in that particular time period. For them, the here and now fades, replaced by vivid memories that feel as real as today. They might call out for people who passed away years ago or speak about events that took place decades earlier as if they were happening now.
How to Handle Time-Shifting Moments
When time-shifting happens, it’s natural to want to correct the person’s perception, to gently remind them that they’re here, with you, in the present. However, we know that this approach often leads to confusion, frustration, or even distress. Instead, try stepping into their reality. Validate their emotions, acknowledge what they’re expressing, and respond with empathy. If they’re worried about an appointment with their parents, for example, you might say, “It sounds like you really care about being on time. They must have meant a lot to you.” This response can offer comfort without the jarring reminder that their parents aren’t around anymore.
Creating Connection Through Their World
Time-shifting can be an opportunity to create moments of connection with the person you love. Ask questions about the time period they’re immersed in, such as, “What’s your favorite thing to do when your parents get home?” Questions like this can prompt storytelling that engages them while providing you with a richer understanding of their past. You might hear stories you’ve never heard before or learn details that bring you closer.
Taking Care of Yourself
It’s important to acknowledge that time-shifting can be emotionally exhausting. Seeing someone you love drift into another time and place can leave you feeling helpless. Make sure you have support, whether from friends, family, or professional resources. Joining a caregiver support group can also provide you with valuable tips and camaraderie from others who understand what you’re going through. Remember, you don’t have to do this alone.
Let Our Dementia Care Specialists Help
Though we know how hard it can be, time-shifting moments offer a window into the life experiences that have shaped the person you love. And we’re here to help you every step of the way in caring for someone you love with Alzheimer’s. Our professional care specialists are fully trained and experienced in the unique nuances of dementia and are available to help in Camillus, Syracuse, Salina, and throughout Central New York. Call us at (315) 579-HOME (4663) for a free in-home meeting to learn more.